tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6948070944762476183.post7617734882278354506..comments2023-10-19T12:13:17.987-04:00Comments on Unexpected Holiness: Conflicted and scatteredDawn Fortunehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14722591049949538021noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6948070944762476183.post-11420136577962090612009-03-04T09:43:00.000-05:002009-03-04T09:43:00.000-05:00One of the hardest things is to reconcile what our...One of the hardest things is to reconcile what our childhoods were with what they should have been- then walking away from the damage unfairly done to us and being better people.<BR/><BR/>Damn, as the remaining (also 43!) year old daughter of a lifelong emotional abusive drunk, I understand this hell you describe all too well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6948070944762476183.post-22935328739540635452009-02-27T03:13:00.000-05:002009-02-27T03:13:00.000-05:00That you are feeling at all conflicted, or feeling...That you are feeling at all conflicted, or feeling traces of pity, says volumes about you as a person.<BR/><BR/>What he was, what he is, is done. The damage is done. The only thing left to do is to decide where you'll let it take you from here, and it sounds like you're making it take you to a healthier, more peaceful place within your own psyche.<BR/><BR/>My thoughts are with you.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02409530202277375625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6948070944762476183.post-89887546117998388822009-02-27T00:32:00.000-05:002009-02-27T00:32:00.000-05:00groemawlThanks to whatever goddess watches over yo...groemawlThanks to whatever goddess watches over you, you are rather more than a decent person. and decent people, when it comes right down to it, generally do not wish suffering on helpless creatures.<BR/><BR/>It's always sad and even a little scary to see a giant, even an evil giant, brought low. It can be infuriating to know that there's no longer any chance of beating him in a fair fight. <BR/><BR/>The least of us is deserving of compassion and forgiveness. The best of us can actually offer it.<BR/><BR/>lisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6948070944762476183.post-86277226506542547642009-02-26T23:08:00.000-05:002009-02-26T23:08:00.000-05:00Wow. First, I want to say you're one of the most ...Wow. First, I want to say you're one of the most honest people it's been my pleasure to read in the blogosphere. I admire the Hell out of you for that, and this post just shows me why.<BR/><BR/>Second, you have my sympathy for his condition and the place it has put you in. You are right - there is no debt owed to our parents; it is, rather, all owed in the opposite direction. The return in respect and/or support is a measure of how well that debt was paid. Still, no matter how much we may "hate" (or pick whatever other word fits) them for what they've done, I believe there will always be a side of us that will want to love them. But again, you are under no obligation to give in to that side.<BR/><BR/>I also believe most in our age group (call it 30+) experiences a hate/love relationship with his/her father in some way. Although my experience was overall positive there are still some things I genuinely dislike - almost despise - my father for.<BR/><BR/>Not sure what good this is doing. Stay strong; you're in my thoughts.Bullhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01337084304437634522noreply@blogger.com